Many couples are unaware of the power of verbally affirming one another.Feeling secure in our relationship comes when our partner accepts us, wants us, and is committed to our well-being.True love can only begin once the in-love experience has run its course.“I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving.”.There’s a third and better alternative: See the in-love experience for what it is-a temporary emotional high-and begin developing a relationship based on “real love,” a love that unites reason and emotion.Many couples think there are only two options: resign themselves to a life of misery or leave and seek love elsewhere.When couples “fall out of love,” they tend to withdraw, separate, divorce, set off in search of a new in-love experience, or “begin the hard work of learning to love each other without the euphoria of the in-love obsession.”.But perhaps the in-love experience is more about serving the universe's needs than keeping couples together.

Being “in-love” gives us the illusion that our relationship is intimate.Our culture leads us to believe that if we’re really in love, our love will last forever.

Other couples may argue and fight, but not us.

When we get married, we tend to think: “We are going to make each other supremely happy.

Is it possible that humans have an invisible love tank that requires regular fill-ups?.

“At the heart of humankind’s existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another.”.

When a child is loved, they develop normally but misbehave if they don’t receive love.

“Isolation is devastating to the human psyche.”

A child needs love and affection for their well-being just as adults do.

Love is perhaps our greatest need, yet few of us understand what it means and how to communicate it.

What makes you feel loved may not be the same for your partner.

The problem is that couples speak a different language-they don’t know each other’s love language.

The idea of romantic love is deeply embedded in our psyche.

For those who don’t divorce, do they learn to live with emptiness, or does the love ever return?.

With all the resources available, why have so few couples figured out how to keep love alive?.

My notes are casual and include what I believe are the essential concepts, ideas, and insights from the book, along with direct quotes from the author. Here are my notes and quotes on The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Keeping love alive requires communicating in your partner’s primary love language, which fosters intimacy and feelings of well-being from which sex naturally arises. When it doesn’t, they don’t know what to do. The 5 Love Languages shows that most couples expect love to last forever.

The heart of the five love languages